Two Questions to Ask Yourself Every Morning

I recently spoke at a conference in Silicon Valley and I was pleased to stay for the rest of the event afterwards. The final speaker, Connie Podesta, said something which struck my curiosity. She said, “I am going to share the two most important questions you will everanswer. If you answer no to either of them I will know some things about you. I will know you are more stressed than you need to be. I will know you are unhappier than you need to be.” She had my attention.

Here are the two questions:

#1 Are you proud of the choices you are making at home?

#2 Are you proud of the choices you are making at work?

We might feel tempted to push these questions aside as being overly simplistic. Yet, as Oliver Wendell Holmes is credited with saying, “I wouldn’t give a fig for simplicity on this side of complexity but I’d give my right arm for simplicity on the other side of complexity.”

One reason these questions strike me as simplicity on the other side of complexity is they remind us to pay attention to our current choices rather than our current results. Our results, whether we are currently experiencing success or failure, can be misleading because they happen after the fact. They are lag indicators. Consider how these questions can help:

In Times of Failure.There are clearly times when things are not going as we want them at work or at home. We could complain about this. We could make a fuss. We could become discouraged. Yet, if we ask these two questions every morning we can focus our energy on the choices we can make. Messed up something? Fine. We can get back on track. We can ask whether we are proud of the choices we are making now.

In Times of Success. Success can be a poor teacher. It can teach us to underinvest in the things which generated the success in the first place. I have argued this more fully in a piece for Harvard Business Review where I intentionally overstate the case in order to make it:success can be a catalyst for failure. We can begin to coast along and in the very moment of our greatest outward achievements we can make choices which undermine our future success.

In Rudyard Kipling’s beautiful poem “If” he brings together both of these scenarios when he penned counsel to his son:

“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same…”

Kipling cautions his son to distrust both success (triumph) and failure (disaster) as imposters. He warns him both are deceptive.

Asking these two questions and becoming more deliberate in our choices can seem like a small thing in the moment. Sometimes we feel we are too busy living to really think about life. Yet failure to reflect on these questions could contribute to a life of regrets. Indeed, an Australian nurse, Bronnie Ware, cared for people in the last 12 weeks of their lives and she recorded the most often-discussed regrets. At the top of the list: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Next on the list: “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard” and “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”

I am not sure these are the most important two questions we will ever ask, but surely we will have fewer regrets if we spend a moment every morning asking them.

Read the Article:  Two Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Morning – LinkedIn

6 thoughts on “Two Questions to Ask Yourself Every Morning

  1. Chuck Gerace says:

    Greg, I was lead here by your post I read today, posted 3/26/13 on HBR. What Will You Create to Make the World Awesome.

    I have been thinking of my life in this manner,and after reading you article I am pushed closer to making changes in my life to align myself with your comments and less with did I make more money today and not enjoy this great day.

    From now on I will ask myself every morning;

    “If this is the last morning I wake up, did I make the world a better place, and did I enjoy myself doing it?”

    Thanks

  2. Anna Iwaniuk says:

    Well, the simplicity of these two questions, is also carrying this underlying meaning to me: it’s so simple to deal with simple stuff, why ‘losing’ time for that? Wherever I can, I put all my effort into tackling the most difficult. Often, and I believe it is really a rule, the simple becomes impossible to notice; there are too many “important” and “complex” things going on in life -right? Once I remember this paradox, I will definitely ask myself these two simple questions more often. Thank you for sharing this and I hope your book will be soon available to Polish readers!

  3. Ndila Kimeu says:

    Why am I just seeing this? It’s beautiful and very enlightening. The focus should indeed be based on our wrong decisions and how to right them as opposed to just living our lives blindly… and to some extent, as a chore. Thanks.

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